This post is for all you out there who think that the reason women don’t fall in love with you is because they only love assholes and jerks. After all, “nice guys” (including you) finish last, right?
Let’s break this down. “Nice” is a word that people use when they have nothing better to say about something, as in when your aunt asks you how you liked your scarf she knitted for you for Christmas. “What? Oh, yeah! that scarf! It’s, um, really, um, nice!” So let me just point out, you self-identified “nice guys” are already admitting that there is nothing noteworthy about you. If you can’t figure it out, that’s really unattractive by definition.
But let’s talk about the other assumption – that women only love jerks. Let me point out that women (sane ones at least) DO NOT LIKE JERKS. Sometimes they are attracted to people who turn out to be jerks. The attractive part, however, is not the jerks, but the CONFIDENCE AND ASSERTIVENESS that sometimes coincides with being a jerk. What we are looking for is a guy who knows what he wants in life, and who goes for it. And I don’t mean just going after women. ugh. Women are attracted to guys who seem to have their lives figured out. Not all planned out and organized necessarily, but who are comfortable in who they are and can achieve what they want to achieve.
What do women want? Women want someone kind. A kind person, however, doesn’t get mad at the object of their affections when they don’t return the sentiment. Think about it. How much did you really care if you can’t respect the woman’s choice?
So suck it up. There are more important things in life than your inability to get some. And no one wants to hear your whining and moaning. Nobody “deserves someone,” and especially not selfish you. Get over yourself and go do something else. Volunteer. Create (non-whiny) art. Get a job. Play a sport. Just stop being lame. Do these things not to get women, but because YOU ENJOY THEM, and women will love you, I guarantee it.
